Preparation

Now it's time to meet with the social worker to prepare legally for the what if's.  The DNR - do not resuscitate order - it's seems so simple but there are three "what if's":
1.  If codes do not resuscitate at all (What if we had a order in place, when he coded those three times we wouldn't have a year more).
2.  If codes resusciate but do not intubate
3.  If codes resusciate and intubate if necessary.
The only thing is, there is still some sticky wording about number two.  How do we know that if they resuscitate we will need to intubate.

Then it's who has control of medical decisions if necessary after surgery.  Momma of course.  But the wording again is still unclear.  Stilll hopefull we wouldn't have to deal with the DNR.

The DNR was one of the most important decisions we (daddy and us) had to make at the end.